This blog series is following my church’s series, “What’s Missing From Sex” as my pastor preaches about a topic the church has mostly avoided. This particular post goes with the first sermon in the series and can be found on my church’s website here. I urge you to listen! The sermon begins about 16:00 minutes into the video.
While I’m wary of even letting guys that I’m attracted to touch me today, that wasn’t always the case. While the words have always been familiar to me, but I haven’t always lived to “honor God with my body.” More importantly, what I realized is that I tried to “honor God” by being mostly obedient to His Word, bending the rules to meet my desires. I would do everything sexually but have intercourse with a man and believe my actions still brought glory to God, because I wasn’t actually having sex before marriage (the command). I was watching pornography and playing out fantasies in my mind, but I was still “pure.” It sounds foolish, right? But that’s the attitude I had until my 30s because I wasn’t exactly sure how to honor God with my body.
Honoring God is a phrase that can sound churchy and religious, and in the midst of struggling with our desires, we can forget what it really means. So here are three easy ways to practice honoring God with our body through sex:
- Believe God. God first gets honor in our lives when we choose to believe Him. We don’t just believe in Him, we believe Him: the things that He says in His Word about sex and love. We must choose to believe that, as my pastor pointed out, the first five words of the Bible are true: “In the beginning God created.” And because God created us and God created sex, as the Creator, we can believe that His ideas and commands about sex are perfect. Do you believe God when He says sex should be reserved for marriage? Do you believe God when He says that He knows and cares about your desires and will meet them? Believing God and His Word is the first step to honoring Him.
- Trust God. Belief is important, but the Bible says that even the demons believe in God, and they shudder (James 2:16). That means we must not only believe what God says, but we must place our trust in Him and His perfect plan for our lives. When I engaged in sexual activity outside of marriage, it was because I didn’t trust God to provide for my wants. I trusted other things: my desires, what the world was saying, and what the church wasn’t saying. Putting my trust in those things led to a pornography addiction and several broken hearts. But when I decided to trust God, I began to see that His perfect way was meant to shield me from that pain and misery. Psalm 23:3 says, “He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to His name.” When we believe and trust Him, God guides us in the right way and He is honored in the process.
- Obey God. It’s not enough just to believe and trust; we have to do what God commands. Jesus said, “If you love me, obey my commands” (John 14:15). We honor God when we obey His commands to save sex for its intended place: marriage. We honor God when we do not let our eyes look at explicit sexual materials (Psalm 101:3). We honor God when we allow our thoughts to stay on what is pure, noble, and true (Philippians 4:8). Nothing brings more honor to God than our obedience, coupled with belief and trust, in the area of sex.
First Corinthians 6:19-20 says, “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” Honoring God with your body doesn’t just mean your physical body not engaging in sexual relations; it means your eyes, your ears, your mouth, your mind—every part must be guarded in godly ways to bring honor to your Creator. In our sex-saturated culture, it’s not easy, but the first step is simply to believe Him. Will you?
Are you ready to honor God in the area of sex? What are some ways you can start?