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Breaking Bad: The Call

It’s tough being a prophet.Prayer Rock Word

(For those who haven’t read my other blogs, my redemptive/motivational spiritual gift is prophet. Read more about it here.)

What was I saying? Oh right. It sure is tough being a prophet.

So many times, I see truth in someone’s life and I just want to tell them. I don’t even have to know them—I can know just enough about them to see their struggles and know their pain. I don’t think I know everything, but I do know people…and I use what I know and what God shows me to see truth before it plays out in their lives. It’s a terribly awesome gift to have—if you understand how God wants you to use it. I can “see” into situations and see truth about others, which in retrospect should be a gift that brings joy not only to myself but to others.

But the part of this gift that I always, always forget about is the call to prayer. Every single redemptive/motivational gift of prophet is called to intercede for others. In fact, the downloads we receive from God about others, those truths that we can plainly see, those things are not things we are to always say or dwell upon—they are given to us so that we can give them back to the Lord in prayer. And as someone who likes to be right and sometimes likes others to know it :), I have a very, very difficult time doing this.

It’s not that I’m not learning at all. Last year, I met with someone and left the meeting thinking that this unhealthy person was going to wreak havoc on their church in some ridiculous way. I could have met with the pastor of their church and told him what I believed was going to happen based on the person’s unhealthiness. I could have called the person out about their unhealthy behavior. (These are the two things that I usually do when I get revelations or insight about someone.) Instead, I decided to just pray for them—that’s what I felt led to do. Oh, this person still wrecked a ministry in their church…but I didn’t feel ownership of the issue because I had prayed about it and prayed for the person. I had done what God had asked me to do. And I felt peaceful about it.

But unfortunately, that’s the exception and not the rule—at least for me. And what’s worse is that many times, the Lord will plant a dream or thought of someone in my head, and I will forget about prayer and run in the wrong direction with it—and what I mean by this is that instead of praying for the person, I will do the opposite. I will either dismiss it and forget about them completely, or I will begin thinking about them obsessively, especially if it’s a guy. And I know that, looking back on my life, I have wasted many opportunities to pray for someone who the Lord has laid on my heart because I thought they were in my head for a different reason. I have lost the opportunity to pray for someone AND I have objectified them in some way. What the Lord means for good, your flesh and the devil will always try to pervert and destroy—and even though I know this, I still let it happen. What’s amazing, though, is that what the devil intends for harm, the Lord can still use for good. He can redeem ANYTHING and ANYONE.

Eight weeks ago, I had a dream about Captain America star Chris Evans, and the repercussions of these last eight weeks have helped me to realize how I can begin to cultivate an important part of my calling. But more incredibly, it’s been instrumental in the birth of breaking bad. More soon.

DISC and Spiritual Gifts: So Happy Together


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My friend is a mercy gift—loving and kind, compassionate and empathetic to everyone. She can’t be around me when I’m angry because she will actually “absorb” my feelings. She is compassionate and giving, loyal to the nth degree. However, she is also very dominant and direct, especially in leadership roles. She has no problems telling you what to do or taking charge of situations, especially if the leadership is questionable. It seems she is crazy sometimes, though, because her primary concern is that everyone feels loved and is shown compassion, yet she can be very bossy and demanding. When you meet her, you may wonder what’s going on inside her—the conflict of her driving personality combined with her gentle, mercy-gifted spirit. But she was fearfully and wonderfully made by the Creator of the universe, who saw fit to give her these conflicting motivations.

What happens when DISC and spiritual gifts combine? Can the two work together to give us a better picture of ourselves and our Creator? Of course they can! And here’s what you need to know about DISC and spiritual gifts together:

  • DISC personality profiles focus on your natural motivations. These are the motivations that you were born with that have been shaped by your upbringing, your experiences, and your desires. My friend’s personality profile is a high D because her life and natural inclinations have been to be someone who direct and in control in her home life and her work life. A lawyer by profession, she is used to taking action in situations at work. As a single mother, she also must be the driving force in her children’s lives. Her high D personality has been strengthened over the years as through leadership positions both personally and professionally. When I’ve worked under her leadership, I’ve seen first-hand her motivation for challenge and directness. However, I also know there is more to her!
  • Spiritual gifts focus on supernatural motivations. While our Creator God gave you your personality as well, He also gave you spiritual motivations to do His will and bring glory and honor to His name. My friend above is a high D and a mercy gift who God made to bring comfort to the hurting. I love seeing her spiritual gift in action, as she weeps with those who weep and celebrates with those who celebrate. I know when she is acting on her supernatural inclinations, she is walking in the will of God very clearly. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.” I watch this play out through my friend’s spiritual gift of mercy, and I know that God is pleased to be working in and through her.
  • DISC and spiritual gifts are better together. When you understand that you have not only natural but supernatural motivations, you see a bigger picture of yourself and the God Who created you. Why is this important? Because the more you know and understand God, the more you will know and understand yourself—and vice versa! When I think about my friend, I think about how imaginative God was when He gave her an oddly opposite combination of a high D personality with a mercy spiritual gift. But Jesus also embodied that same of “odd” pairing—mostly because he was all four personality types and all seven spiritual gifts! This also makes Jesus a great mirror to which we can compare our personality types as well as our spiritual gifts. And DISC and spiritual gifts are definitely better together!

As we close this series on DISC, I hope you’ve learned a little more about yourself and the individuality that God has blessed you with through your personality (and your spiritual gifts). If you would like to know more about DISC and/or spiritual gifts, please feel free to contact me—I would love to talk to you about your uniqueness and how it can help make you a better leader, friend, spouse, and family member—because knowing yourself is the best thing you can give to the world!

Becoming Fearlessly Fulfilled!

Pushy Prophet Girl Ministries initially was started to help people discover more about themselves—their spiritual gifts, in particular—to help them become great leaders and better people. Recently, God has shown me some incredible things about Himself and myself that He is calling me to share with all of you. God is asking me to work with you on becoming fearlessly fulfilled.

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What does it mean to become fearlessly fulfilled? In looking back at my own life—my addiction to pornography and issues with lust, my troubles maintaining healthy relationships with others, my problems with anger—I realize that there was a decision to make different choices in my life—choices that affected all areas of my life: emotional, physical, and spiritual. I became fearlessly fulfilled by focusing on three areas:

  • Emotional health. I wasn’t emotionally mature as a 30-year old. In fact, I was downright immature and other people disliked being around me. I believed people were objects to be used for my pleasure instead of God-given gifts to be treasured. When people didn’t do what I wanted, I threw temper tantrums and was judgmental, angry, hurtful, and obnoxious. How did I remedy this? I resolved to attend Celebrate Recovery to work through all my past issues. I became fully involved, attending a 10-month step study while waving goodbye to my hurts, habits, and hang-ups. (Psalm 147:3)
  • Physical health. When you have wrong thoughts about yourself, it extends beyond your mind and into your physical body. I was stuck in cycles of eating badly and exercising in the wrong ways (if at all). How did I remedy this? Once I was emotionally and mentally in a better place, once I had plowed through all my past “junk,” I was ready to work on myself physically. I started the Blood Type Diet (Eat Right 4 Your Blood Type by Dr. Peter D’Adamo), which helped me get both food and exercise under control and helped me to thrive physically. (1 Corinthians 3:17)
  • Spiritual health. I did not know who I was in the Lord, and when you don’t know who you are in Him, you will try to find it in other places—even in the church! How did I remedy this? I learned about my motivational spiritual gifts. Knowing that I was CREATED BY GOD to be a bold pushy prophet girl (and not a mild mercy woman) changed my entire outlook on life. I felt accepted and understood for the first time in my life. In addition, learning about the gifts improved my understanding of others, changed how I interact with others, and allows me to teach others about their own gifts and uniqueness. (1 Peter 2:9)

It wasn’t just one of these areas that I had to improve—I had to improve all of them. Your emotional health, physical health, and spiritual health are intricately intertwined, and thriving in all three areas is important in becoming the person God wants you to be.

This year, I want to help you become fearlessly fulfilled in your own life! Pushy Prophet Girl Ministries is offering personal coaching, group coaching, free teleseminars, and training and workshops on DISC and spiritual gifts to help you tackle all three areas of your health. If you are tired of wondering if God has something more planned for you, if you can ever become whole, or if you really can get truly healthy in all areas of your life, then contact me today for a free 30-minute Identity Intensive. Let 2014 be the year you truly become fearlessly fulfilled!

Motivation: Compassion


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Mercy: the crown jewel of the motivational gifts. Why are they the crown jewel of the gifts? Because the mercy is wired to the heart of God, not the mind of God (as the other six gifts are). Mercies are often caught up in the battle of pleasing God or pleasing man because they are so compassionate that they do not want to hurt people by making decisions or confronting sin. However, they are predisposed to worship and can connect with God immediately without hesitation (I love to watch this happen with my mercy friends!). Mercy gifts are a safe place for wounded people and they can often sense who is wounded and hurting in a group of people. Mercy gifts are often attracted to prophets because prophets are bold and fearless, and prophets desperately need the softening influence of the mercy gift (I am always surrounded by mercy gifts!).

You may not be wired like them, but here are a few ways you can connect with a mercy gift:

  • Give your mercy friends time to process. This is probably the most important present you can give to your mercy friends. They will not process things at the same rate that you do. The mercy gift requires even more time to process than the teacher because mercies are processing everything through their emotions. You may not understand this, but you should respect it. Your mercy friend may come up to you three months later and say, “Remember when you said…well, you were right.” If this happens, simply remember that they were processing that the entire time!
  • Give your mercy friends appropriate physical contact. More than any other gift, the mercy craves intimacy—not just soul contact, but physical contact in the form of hugs and touch. The apostle John was a great example of a mercy gift—he not only referred to himself as “the disciple that Jesus loved” but he also needed physical contact with him (he laid on Jesus’ breast during the Last Supper). Please be careful and notice that I said APPROPRIATE physical contact! Please do not allow yourself to become attached to a mercy gift based on physical contact; their need for physical contact can too often lead to inappropriate behavior, especially interactions between the opposite sex. Help your mercy friends to receive their physical contact in holy, God-honoring ways.
  • Give your mercy friends a push towards excellence. In their battle between pleasing God and pleasing man, mercies may get wrapped up in the emotions of others instead of the Lord. I have experienced this in churches where there is a mercy pastor who often wraps himself in loyalty and takes up offenses for his family. Pleasing man instead of God can mire the mercy gift in mediocrity. Help them get wrapped up in the Lord like John did in Revelation: it will help them to deliver hard messages with compassion while staying faithful to God’s will for them!

The beauty of the mercy gift—of all the gifts—is found in their differences. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139) and the mercy is living proof of that.

What are some other ways you can encourage mercy gifts to walk in the beauty of their gifting?

Motivation: Administrating

“Alright, now when we get the boat to the edge of the dock, you’re going to have to jump! I can’t put the boat right up against the dock, so when I get there, everyone has to jump off very quickly!” he shouted. My other friend got to the edge and waited for the boat to get close enough for her to jump. “Okay now, jump! Jump! JUMP!” he barked repeatedly. My friend jumped—and missed the dock completely, falling into about four feet of water between the boat and the pier. “GET HER OUTTA THERE!!” he screamed at those of us still dry and on the boat. We reached down and pulled her up, but between silent laughs, we all just shook our heads: that’s what it was like to spend time with our ruler friend.

Rulers have one motivation: administrating and leading others to complete projects. Rulers gravitate to positions of authority and responsibility because they are so good at bringing teams together and delegating tasks to complete a project. Rulers are also great at using imperfect people to achieve things—they are loyal and want loyalty in return.

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However, when you are known as God’s empire builder, a few things can trip you up in your walk! Here are three things for rulers to remember as they use their motivations in their daily lives to build up the body of Christ.

  • Integrity is essential—don’t skimp on ethics. Rulers sometimes fail to follow the “letter of the law” when completing tasks, especially if “no one gets hurt” and the end justifies the mean for them. However, God calls us all to model integrity, and rulers should embrace doing things the right way—not cutting corners or using unethical means to carry out the tasks assigned. Be careful not to tolerate compromise too much (see Solomon, who was the gift of ruler).
  • Serve people—don’t just use them to complete tasks. Rulers can become so concerned with completing projects that their team members may feel used. Rulers must remember to celebrate their team and recognize their needs as much as the needs for the task. Although he was completely absorbed in rebuilding the wall, Nehemiah also cared for the people who worked with him to complete this task, which compelled the people to work with all of their heart (Nehemiah 4:6).
  • Get your legitimacy from God—not from having authority over others. Because of their gift for leading others, rulers can draw a false sense of legitimacy from the authority they have over other people. We must remind them to dig deeper into their relationship with God to secure their legitimacy and submit to God’s calling and leadership in their life. Nehemiah responded to God’s call to rebuild the wall but was never far from the Lord during the task. He relied on God’s strength, not His own!

As rulers choose God’s plan for their lives instead of their own, they will begin to walk in fulfillment and establish generational blessings for their family and ministry and build an empire that will far outlast their life!

Do you know any rulers? How can you encourage them as they grow in their gift?

Motivation: Encouragement

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Everyone has an exhorter friend: the guy that everyone loves; the chatty Kathy that is the “life of the party.” Exhorters are people people: they communicate well, have a large network, and are skilled at creating and sustaining relationships. They open their hearts and lives to others and use practical application to help others grow. Everyone loves the exhorter, and the exhorter loves everyone (mostly because they don’t like being rejected). And the exhorter’s primary motivation is encourage, comfort, and counsel others, becoming all things to all people in the good sense like the apostle Paul.

Because their motivation gives them incredible leverage in relationships, exhorters must learn to use their gift to produce long-term life changes, not just short-term changes that produce no real change. We can help our exhorter friends to stay on the lookout for several snares of their gifting:

  • Being masters of manipulation. Having such a great rapport with others can tempt exhorters to use their gift to control others. This is especially clear in the immature exhorter, who will win the trust of others and then use it to their own advantage. I had an exhorter friend who loved being the center of attention; however, after she gained your trust, she would use her perceived “power” in her relationships to alienate those by whom she felt threatened. Exhorters must be vigilant that they do not use their gifts for manipulation but instead remain godly and trustworthy for use by God.
  • Living in denial. Exhorters sometime have difficulty accepting personal responsibility for their own failures. Here, the master of manipulation can try to dominate even God Himself. The same exhorter friend who was a master of manipulation struggled with seeing her own faults, even when pointed out in love. Exhorters must learn that “living off their personality” is not what God has called them to do; God has instead called them to flow in the power of the Holy Spirit, which means admitting their wrongs and confessing them to receive forgiveness. (If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9)
  • Relying on their own understanding. Exhorters who experience success in comforting and encouraging others may begin to lean on their own understanding of others’ problems and issues, instead of the Holy Spirit. They may begin to apply non-Scriptural principles to a situation or try to simplify a problem with an easy solution. Exhorters must remember God does not always give cut and dry answers, and most importantly, that they must rely on the Holy Spirit in times when understanding is limited. (Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5)

When walking in fulfillment, exhorters are destined to have influence over great numbers of people, like the apostle Paul did. As a part of the body of Christ, we can help our exhorter friends to avoid traps that can lead them away from God’s calling on their lives.

What positive traits do you see in your exhorter friends? How can you encourage them to avoid the pitfalls discussed above?

Motivation: Truth

Meister Eckhart said, “No one can know God who does not first know himself.” In order to start knowing ourselves, we have to know what motivates us. We can better understand how we’re wired and motivated by discussing the seven spiritual gifts from Romans 12:6-8.

The first gift listed in Romans 12:6 is the motivational gift of prophet. Prophets see and speak truth, as directed by God, to correct what’s wrong and build up the church. Prophets use Scripture to show wrong motives and actions in others. The main motivation for a prophet is TRUTH. They live and breathe truth. They are bold, fearless, opinionated, not intimidated by the unknown or change, verbally expressive visionaries, and see things in black and white, right or wrong. Honesty, integrity, and transparency compel prophets. They are not just opinionated and judgmental about others; prophets are hardest on themselves, especially when they fail or sin. Prophets tell things like they are and are usually the first to speak and share their opinion.

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Instead of blogging on the characteristics, it’s more important to focus on how the church can show acceptance to prophets. Knowing your own gift is important, but equally important is to understand all the gifts and how they work together to be the body of Christ. Here are four important ways to receive the motivational gift of prophet.

  1.  Understand that beneath their sometimes harsh exterior, prophets do love. They may not show mercy, gentleness, or sensitivity when they are speaking truth, but prophets usually speak truth because they want what is best for others and for the church. They may value truth over relationship, but that does not mean they do not need or want relationships with others. Love them in return! 
  1. Respect the truth prophets present, even if their method is negative. God has gifted prophets with the ability to see truth. There is usually valuable truth in what the prophet has said. Like the old saying, “Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water,” don’t throw out everything the prophet says just because they lacked gentleness. Pray for discernment about the prophet’s words! 
  1. If you want mercy, don’t go to a prophet gift—go to a mercy. Prophets need encouragement, mercy, and understanding, even though they may not give it in return. That doesn’t mean prophets are excused from being merciful or gentle—I am always trying to grow in these areas! However, mercy is not the prophet’s main motivation, so seek out the gift of mercy when you need mercy! 
  1. Tell prophets when they are offensive, hurtful, or causing conflict. God will often use others to correct prophets when they are wrong. In addition, as a prophet gift, I really appreciate it when people are honest with me about my actions. I want that feedback so that I can improve myself and walk in maturity in my gift. Help prophets grow by being truthful with them in return!

Prophets, like the other gifts, are integral to the body of Christ. Receiving them as important pieces of the puzzle is critical as the church becomes the bride God intended!

Do you know any prophets? How do you receive them in your life and church?

No Return, No Re-Gifting, No Neglecting!


You’ve been there. There it is, a gift nicely wrapped and addressed to you for a birthday or holiday. We think it’s going to be great, but the moment we open it, we start thinking about how to get rid of it. We smile and say thanks, but inside, we’re plotting this gift’s demise in one of three ways: return it, re-gift it, or neglect it.

I have often felt this way about my redemptive spiritual gift of prophecy. This gift given to me by my Father God is meant, like other gifts I may receive, to be unique to me. But sometimes, it is not what I want or what I think it should be.

Since there’s no exchange or return policy on spiritual gifts, what do you do when you feel frustrated or disappointed with your spiritual gift? What do you do when you just don’t want it? Well…

  • You can’t return it, so ACCEPT it. The moment that I accepted that being a pushy prophet girl was who God made me to be was the first moment that I truly lived.  In the Bible, James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” Simply put, if God, the creator of the heavens and earth, gave you this gift, it is the one you’re supposed to have. God is not like a bad boyfriend or absentee parent who forgot your birthday or doesn’t know you: He knows you well and picked this gift out especially for you. That means that it is the perfect gift for you.
  • You can’t re-gift it, so STUDY it. Don’t stop with acceptance: learn all that you can about who God says you are. Every gift is different, so know your strengths and improve your weaknesses. Find others who have your gift and learn from them. Most of all, talk to God about your gift; ask Him why He chose you to have it, for a glimpse of His plans for you, etc. His answers will amaze you!
  • You could neglect it, but instead, USE it. Sometimes we just toss those unwanted birthday gifts under a bed or in a closet. The Bible suggests an alternative for our spiritual gifts. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” In other words, don’t abandon your gift, USE it—to bless others, to be an important part of the church, and to help others find acceptance in who they are. 

Remember that even though these gifts come with a no return/no exchange policy, they CAN mature and their return on investment is beyond incredible—it’s eternal! How can you accept, study, and use your God-given gifts today?

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What’s the Difference?

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If you’ve ever been to a church for any length of time, you’ve probably been introduced to the spiritual gifts. Maybe you’ve decided that you probably have one of the easier ones, like wisdom, and dismissed ones like prophecy (prophets are SO Old Testament, right?). Whatever it is, you likely haven’t thought much about them since the first time you heard about them.

But there’s a distinct difference between the lists of spiritual gifts in the Bible, and before I blog any further, I want to make sure that I distinguish between these lists. This is significant because as I talk further about gifts, I don’t want to confuse you. I may occasionally refer to the 1 Corinthians 12 list or the Ephesians 4 list, but it is important for you to know that in most of my posts, when I speak of spiritual gifts, I will be referring to the Romans 12 list.

The Romans 12:6-8 list is the list of motivational (or redemptive) spiritual gifts, and it is a list of seven gifts: prophet, servant, teacher, giver, exhorter, ruler/administrator, mercy. This list  was made popular in teachings by Bill Gothard, whose teachings opened the door to research and study of what motivates us to act and be who we are. Arthur Burk and others also have done extensive work concerning motivational gifts. Motivational gifts are given by God at birth, and every person–not just every believer–has one dominant and one secondary motivational gift. There are more than 100 lists of seven in the Bible (meaning lists that contain seven items). Scholars view seven as a significant number in the Bible. Are these lists of seven compatible? I believe so. This is another significant reason that I use the Romans 12 list as my “go to” list of spiritual gifts. There is continuity across the Bible with lists of seven, and it’s exciting when you begin to understand this more!

The list of gifts in 1 Corinthians 12 is lengthy and somewhat overwhelming. The important distinction between these gifts is they are given by the Spirit, and that the Spirit gives these gifts “to each one individually as He [the Spirit] wills.”  These are the gifts that include speaking in tongues, wisdom, discernment, and healing, among others. Since only believers receive the Holy Spirit who gives these gifts, only believers receive these gifts.

The list of gifts in Ephesians 4 are the offices of the church and include apostles, teachers, prophets, evangelists, and pastors. It is important to also note that Jesus is the one Who gives these gifts. These are the gifts that sustain and empower the church. Not every believer is given one of these gifts.

Let me note that one can have the Romans 12 gift of prophecy, the 1 Corinthians 12 gift of prophecy, and the Ephesians 4 office of prophet in the church. But you could also be a Romans 12 gift of mercy, with the 1 Corinthians 12 gift of discernment, in the Ephesians 4 office of prophet in the church. Gifts are not always the same, nor do they necessarily manifest themselves in people in the same way (mostly due to immaturity, walking in the flesh vs. the Spirit, and wounding).

Now that you know the difference, do you know your motivational gift? What 1 Corinthians gifts have you been given by the Spirit? Have you been blessed with the gift of a church office?